OVERCOMING LIFE’S DIFFICULTIES
September 3rd, 2006 by jeesweetcandy
I just found this article today. Somehow it had helped me a lot in dealing with the hurdle that i am experiencing nowadays. It’s just sad to know why there are people who really tries to pull you down. However, i’m very much grateful that despite all these, life has to go on. ..
It is not necessary to understand the cause of the problem to solve it.
Most people believe that it’s essential to know the roots of the problem before they can change. ‘If only I knew why I’m so…I’d be able to change myself’. Unfortunately, this isn’t true. Understanding does not always create change. Solutions are often new elements injected into the existing situation. A belief like this often fosters the ‘paralysis of analysis’, encouraging too much navel gazing that makes people do the exact opposite of the following belief you need to overcome difficult times…
Spend only 20% of your time on what’s wrong, and 80% on what’s right.
If you spend 80% of your time focusing on the problem and only 20% on the solution what do you think is going to happen? It’s easy to complain. It’s easy to be a defeatist. You need to make it so it’s even easier to answer the question ’so what are you doing about it?’
No matter what else is happening, you are at least doing one thing right in your life.
No matter how badly you think your life may be going, or how messed up you think you are, there is at least one thing you are doing right in your life or you wouldn’t be alive reading this.
Problems aren’t always there!
You may think you’re always depressed, or sad, or down and out…only because you haven’t noticed when you haven’t been. You know when you are…how about when you aren’t? For example, it’s physically impossible to be depressed all the time…notice that next time you really really really need to go to the toilet.
If it’s not possible to be depressed all the time, then it’s also not possible not to be happy all the time.
You are more than just your problems.
You are not a depressive. You are not bankrupt. You are not a retrenched worker. You are not a rejected salesman. You are not last place. Let’s not lie, you are responsible for the results you create in your life, sure. But you are not your problems. You are a living breathing human being who is infinitely more complex than even all of your problems added up together.
If what you are doing isn’t working, do something, anything, different from what you’ve been doing before!
If you find yourself stuck in a rut, you’re stuck because you’re doing the same things over and over again in that same spot. If you really need a change, just challenge yourself to do one thing differently from before. A little shift already creates a different result, and little shifts build on to create bigger shifts in time.
Today is a new day.
The past does not equal the future. The future can be even better than the past, unless you make it worse. You can focus on what’s over and unchangeable and miss making it better here and now, or you can do better. Leave what’s past where it belongs. Create hope for the future. Do that by…
Seeing what you want in the future.
Not what you don’t want. What you do want. Since the future’s a blank canvas, you’re free everyday to paint it as you wish. You can choose to paint a bleak picture…but is that a quality choice? If you can see, hear or feel it, you can go to it. Do this as often and as much as you can.
What are you grateful for in your life right now?
And finally, the most spiritual and uplifting quality I know of; living the attitude of gratitude. No matter who, where and when you are, the fact that you’re still here, means that you have at least one thing you can be grateful about in your life right now. Not talking about settling for what you have, but acknowledging it, appreciating its’ presence, knowing that there are good things in your life, will help you attract even more.
Like attracts like. It can happen out there inwards, it can also start immediately inwards out. Your mind makes a difference, and if millionaires can be depressed, you have enough power to direct your inner state, irrespective of what you think must make you feel any way.
YOU TAKE MY BREATH AWAY
August 28th, 2006 by jeesweetcandyTake My Breath Away
By: Emma Bunton
If I told you how I feel about you
Would you say the same and
If I wrote it in a letter
Would you keep it or throw it away
I never thought I’d feel the way I’m feeling lately
When everything you seem to do just drives me crazy
Every waking day you take my breath away
With every word you say you take my breath away
You look at me that way, baby come what may
I hope that you’ll always know how to take my breath away
How to take my breath away
You told me how you feel about me
Cos I did not know
If you said you’d fill my heart with all your loving
Til it overflowed
I don’t know the way you feel but boy I’m hoping
I always used to hide a way, but now I’m open
Every waking day you take my breath away
With every word you say you take my breath away
You look at me that way, baby come what may
I hope that you’ll always know how to take my breath away
How to take my breath away
Take my breath away
Take my breath away
Take my breath away
Every waking day you take my breath away
With every word you say you take my breath away
You look at me that way, baby come what may
I hope that you’ll always know how to take my breath away
How to take my breath away
(How to take my breath away)
Take my breath away
Take my breath away
(How to take my breath away)
Take my breath away
Take my breath away
Take my breath away
Take my breath away
SWEETHEART
August 24th, 2006 by jeesweetcandySWEETHEART
by : The Parliament Syndicate
Oooh…
Looking back through all i’ve been through
Love has been to be unkind
Always fallin all to shadow
of doubting love the thoughts so true
Chorus:
Please don’t hurt me baby
I’ve always cared for you
Yo, I set my soul on fire
Your smile has kept me through
To find a lasting love i’ve dreamed of
hoping us can find the truth
I’ll give you all my dreams and treasures
Don’t take me back to road to blue
Don’t hurt my heart oh baby
i’d still cared for you
Yo, i set my soul on fire
Your smile has kept me through
(Repeat Chorus)
I know the time for love would would happen
The one’s he called love is none at all
Believe what we had is something special
Stay with me i will soar in the sky
(Repeat Chorus)
Don’t hurt my heart oh baby
I still cared for you
Yo, i set my soul on fire
Your smile has kept me through
OFFICIALLY MISSING YOU
August 19th, 2006 by jeesweetcandy
Tamia’s long awaited follow-up to her acclaimed Elektra debut, A Nu Day, finds the sultry, sophisticated singer at both a creative and personal apex. Songs like Officially Missing You, which sheds both heat and light on what it’s like to long for another, is complemented by the thoughtful and wistful Smile, which Tamia points to as one of her personal favorites on More. ‘Smile’ is about those times you feel you have to put on a pretty face in front of everyone. When everyone thinks they know who you are. They don’t realize the ups and downs and that sometimes you do have to paste that smile on your face to get through. A lot of people think this business is all about the makeup and beautiful clothes but they don’t always understand what you went through to get to this.
Officially Missing You
by Tamia
Hmm…
Ooh…ooh…
All I hear is raindrops, falling on the rooftop
Oh baby, tell me why’d you have to go
‘Cause this pain I feel it won’t go away
And today I’m officially missin’ you
I thought that from this heartache, I could escape
But I’ve fronted long enough to know
There ain’t no way
And today I’m officially missing you
Ooh…can’t nobody do it like you
Said every little thing you do, hey, baby
Said it stays on my mind
And I-I’m officially…
All I do is lay around, 2 ears full of tears
From looking at your face on the wall
Just a week ago you were my baby
Now I don’t even know you at all, I don’t know you at all
Well, I wish that you would call me right now
So that I could get through to you somehow
But I guess it’s safe to say, baby, safe to say
that I-I’m officially missin’ you
Ooh…can’t nobody do it like you
Said every little thing you do, hey, baby
Said it stays on my mind
And I-I’m officially
Well, I thought I could just get over you, baby
But I see that’s something I just can’t do
From the way you would hold me
To the sweet things you told me
I just can’t find a way to let go of you
Ooh…can’t nobody do it like you
Said every little thing you do, hey, baby
Said it stays on my mind
And I-I’m officially…
It’s official
Hoo, you know that I’m missin’ you, yeah, yes
All I hear is raindrops, oh, yeah
And I-I’m officially missin’ you
BIRTH ORDER
August 10th, 2006 by jeesweetcandyHave you ever wondered why you have distinctly different characteristics from that of the other siblings in your family? Well, i just wanted to share this blog to my dear friend whom i just talked to this afternoon. We really had a nice conversation today, but because of time constraints we were not able to finish our talk about this topic. This is the Theory by Alfred Adler about Birth Order Characteristics. This is for you my friend and I hope you will learn something from this.
ADLERIAN OVERVIEW OF BIRTH ORDER CHARACTERISTICS
| POSITION | FAMILY SITUATION | CHILD’S CHARACTERISTICS |
|---|---|---|
| ONLY | Birth is a miracle. Parents have no previous experience. Retains 200% attention from both parents. May become rival of one parent. Can be over-protected and spoiled. | Likes being the center of adult attention. Often has difficulty sharing with siblings and peers. Prefers adult company and uses adult language. |
| OLDEST | Dethroned by next child. Has to learn to share. Parent expectations are usually very high. Often given resposnsibility and expected to set an example. | May become authoritarian or strict. Feels power is his right. Can become helpful if encouraged. May turn to father after birth of next child. |
| SECOND | He has a pacemaker. There is always someone ahead. | Is more competitive, wants to overtake older child. May become a rebel or try to outdo everyone. Competition can deteriorate into rivalry. |
| MIDDLE | Is "sandwiched" in. May feel squeezed out of a position of privilege and significance. | May be even-tempered, "take it or leave it" attitude. May have trouble finding a place or become a fighter of injustice. |
| YOUNGEST | Has many mothers and fathers. Older children try to educate him. Never dethroned. | Wants to be bigger than the others. May have huge plans that never work out. Can stay the "baby." Frequently spoiled. |
| TWIN | One is usually stronger or more active. Parents may see one as the older. | Can have identity problems. Stronger one may become the leader. |
| "GHOST CHILD" | Child born after the death of the first child may have a "ghost" in front of him. Mother may becime over-protective. | Child may exploit mother’s over-concern for his well-being, or he may rebel, and protest the feeling of being compared to an idealized memory. |
| ADOPTED CHILD | Parents may be so thankful to have a child that they spoil him. They may try to compensate for the loss of his biological parents. | Child may become very spoiled and demanding. Eventually, he may resent or idealize the biological parents. |
| ONLY BOY AMONG GIRLS | Usually with women all the time, if father is away. | May try to prove he is the man in the family, or become effeminate. |
| ONLY GIRL AMONG BOYS | Older brothers may act as her protectors. | Can become very feminine, or a tomboy and outdo the brothers. May try to please the father. |
| ALL BOYS | If mother wanted a girl, can be dressed as a girl. | Child may capitalize on assigned role or protest it vigorously. |
| ALL GIRLS | May be dressed as a boy. | Child may capitalize on assigned role or protest it vigorously. |
SUMMARY OF THE CHARACTERISTICS
Oldest_ Responsible
_ Conservative
_ Doesn’t make waves
_ Follows parents’ wishes
_ Emotionally intense
_ Authoritarian
_ Perfectionist
_ Driven
_ Surrogate parent
_ Leadership material
Middle_ Peacemaker
_ Negotiator
_ Highly attuned to needs of others
_ Doesn’t like to follow authority
_ Creative
_ Independent
_ Peer-focused
_ “Chameleon”
Youngest_ Comical/entertaining
_ Highly social
_ Laid back
_ Dependent
_ Creative
_ Unconventional
_ Few expectations of self
THANKS TO YOU
August 9th, 2006 by jeesweetcandyI dedicate this song to all my friends who are always there for me, for the people who love me so much, despite my imperfections. This is my song of gratitude for you.
THANKS TO YOU
By : Tyler Collins
Thank you for teaching me how to love
Showing me what the world means
What I’ve been dreamin’ of
And now I know, there is nothing that I could not do
Thanks to You
For teaching me how to feel
Showing me my emotions
Letting me know what’s real
From what is not
What I’ve got is more that I’d ever hoped for
And a lot of what I hope for is
Thanks to you
No mountain, no valley
No time, no space
No heartache, no heartbreak
No fall from grace
Can’t stop me from believing
That my love will pull me through
Thanks to You
(Adlib)
There’s no mountain, no valley
No time, no space
No heartache, no heartbreak
No fall from grace
Can’t stop me from believing
That my love will see me through
Thanks to You
Thanks to You
For teaching me how to live
Putting things in perspective
Teaching me how to give
And how to take
No mistake
We were put here together
And if I breakdown
Forgive me but it’s true
That I’m aching with the love I feel inside
Thanks to You
Thanks to you
STARS ARE BLIND
August 5th, 2006 by jeesweetcandy
STARS ARE BLIND
By : Paris Hilton
Just hanging here with you Cuz I don’t find too many guys
That treat me like you do
Those other guys all wanna take me for a ride
But when I walk their talk is suicide
Some people never get beyond their stupid pride
But you can see the real me inside
And I’m satisfied, oh no, ohh
Even though the gods are crazy
Even though the stars are blind
If you show me real love baby
I’ll show you mine
I can make you nice and naughty
Be the devil and angel too
Got a heart and soul and body
Let’s see what this love can do
Baby i’m perfect for you
My love, ohh oh
I could be your confidante
Just one of your girlfriends
But I know that love’s what you want
If tomorrow the world ends
Why shouldn’t we be with the one we really love?
Now tell me who have you been dreaming of
At night at home? oh no, ohh
Even though the gods are crazy
Even though the stars are blind
If you show me real love baby
I’ll show you mine
I can make you nice and naughty
Be the devil and angel too
Got a heart and soul and body
Let’s see what this love can do
Baby i’m perfect for you
Excuse me for feeling
This moment is critical
Might be me feeling
It could get physical, oh no, no no
Even though the gods are crazy
Even though the stars are blind
If you show me real love baby
I’ll show you mine
I can make you nice and naughty
Be the devil and angel too
Got a heart and soul and body
Let’s see what this love can do
Let’s see what this love can do
Baby I’m perfect for you
Baby I’m perfect for you
Even though the gods are crazy
Even though the stars are blind
Even though the gods are crazy
I don’t mind spending some time
LOVE THIS WAY
July 30th, 2006 by jeesweetcandyEveryone of us needs to love and be loved. Abraham Maslow believes that, the need for Belongingness and Love have to well-satisfied first, before the individual could reach the higher need for Self-Actualization. This is what this song is all about.This is also about needing or missing somebody whom you want to touch and to feel the passion once again, but, sad to say he/she’s not there.
This song is by the group called The Eden’s Crush. The lead vocals of this song is Nicole Scherzinger, who is of Hawaiian-Russian- Filipino descent and who’s also now in the girl group called The Pussycat Dolls. Here’s their brief bio.
Los Angeles based female teen pop quintet Eden’s Crush was formed after its members auditioned for the reality series Popstars, broadcasted by the WB Network. The vocal act’s debut album, also titled Popstars, was released by London-Sire Records in 2001, produced by David Foster and Matthew Gerrard, and featured a Spanish version of "1000 Words," plus a cover of Sheila E.’s "Glamorous Life." Eden’s Crush became the first female group to debut at number one on the sales chart with their first single, "Get Over Yourself." Drago Bonacich, All Music Guide.
Love This Way
By : Eden’s Crush
I wanna run into someones arms
Lie on a bed of roses
I wanna feel just like juliet
I wanna fall in love
I’ve got a feeling
Everybody wants someone to love
Somebody they can trust
Somebody they can touch
Everybody wants to give their heart away
Everybody needs a little tenderness
To feel understood
To feel passionate
Everybody wants to be in love this way
Everybody wants to be in love this way
I know I do what about you
I wanna be somebody’s baby
I want to cry and still feel beautiful
Maybe I really just wanna be myself
I’m not the only one
I got a feeling
Everybody wants someonne to love
Somebody they can trust
Somebody they can touch
Everybody wants to give their heart away
Everybody needs a little tenderness
To feel understood
To feel passionate
Everybody wants to be in love this way
Everybody wants to be in love this way
I know I do
What about you
I do I do doesn’t everybody wanna give their heart away
I do I do dosen’t everybody wanna be in love this way
Cause I do
I wanna feel like an angel
I want to fly on a beam of moonlight
I wanna see heaven from the inside
I wanna feel just like juliet
Juliet Juliet
SONGS BY DEBELAH MORGAN
July 25th, 2006 by jeesweetcandy
Was crowned Miss Teen Black Arizona and Miss Black Teenage World at age 15.Graduated from the University of Arizona where she majored in Vocal Performance.Can sing in French, Italian, German, Hindi and Portuguese.Won a silver medal in the NAACP international music competition held in Los Angeles.Her 2000 hit "Dance With Me" reached #8 on the Billboard Hot 100 charts.
I LOVE YOU
By : Debelah Morgan
I love you
Wherever you are
It don’t matter
It don’t matter how far
Cause I love you
I’ll do anything for your love
I’ll do anything for your love
Every time I close my eyes I look inside myself
When I see you standing there I see love
Love the most precious gift of them all
I really love him so
I’ll never let him go
He’s always in my heart
I love you
Wherever you are
It don’t matter
It don’t matter how far
Cause I love you
I’ll do anything for your love
I’ll do anything for your love
All my friends think I’m crazy (crazy)
But the more love I give
The more secure I feel in your arms
Love, love, gets me high
I really love him so
I’ll never let him go
He’s always in my heart
I love you
Wherever you are
It don’t matter
It don’t matter how far
Cause I love you
I’ll do anything for your love
I’ll do anything for your love
Please understand how I feel
I got a love that’s so real my baby
I feel it deep in my heart
No one and nothing will ever tear us apart
I love you
Wherever you are
It don’t matter
It don’t matter how far
Cause I love you
I’ll do anything for your love
I’ll do anything for your love
CLOSE TO YOU
By : Debelah Morgan
(Chorus)
I wanna be close to you
I wanna be close to you
I wanna be close to you
I wanna be by your side
If only for just one night
I wanna be close to you
I wanna be in your sight
I’ll do anything you want me to
If you let me be close to you
(Verse 1)
You made me fall in love again
I swore I’d never let anyone in
But when I’m close to you I feel so alive
You awaken a part of me I thought had died
I see your face inside the moon
And everything reminds me of you
The wind never stops whispering your name
Now that I’ve met you I will never be the same
Now that I’ve found you
I will never let you go
Every second every hour
Of the day if I had my way
I’d wanna spend it close to you
Chorus
(Verse 2)
I promise you that we’ll never fight
And we’ll make love all night
You won’t have a care coz I’ll always be there
To hold you and protect you from whatever’s out there
The stars in the sky smile as we walk by
Love is in the air never thought I would share
A love that’s unreal that’s how you make me feel
I sent my heart out to sea but you rescued me
Now that I’ve found you
I will never let you go
Every second every hour
Of the day if I had my way
I’d wanna spend it close to you
Chorus
(Bridge)
Every night when I’m dreaming
I wanna dream about you
And every morning when I wake up
I wanna wake up right next to you
And if I couldn’t go on living
And I had just one night
I’d wanna spend it close to my baby
Coz you make everything alright
Chorus
