Love is when…
Love is when you see it in your partners eyes. Love is saying “I Love You” once and living it forever. Love is loving someone and being loved in return. Love is when you think of your love… and can do nothing but smile. It is love when you see yourself not being able to sleep because you can’t stand being without them…
Love is not all about…
Love is not all about being together
But it is about feeling together…
Sophie Ballantine Hawkins was born in New York City, on November 1, 1967. As a child, she first had ambitions of being an English teacher, but soon felt the need to become a songwriter. "I didn’t want to be a performer. I didn’t want to be famous," she would later admit. But Sophie started down the road of musical performance early on.
At age 14, she studied drums with the famous African drummer Babatunde Olatunji, and then went on to study classical percussion at the Manhattan School of Music.
AS I LAY ME DOWN
by : Sophie B. Hawkins
It felt like springtime on this February morning
In the courtyard birds were singing your praise
I’m still recalling things you said to make me feel alright
I carried them with me today, Now
(chorus) As I lay me down to sleep
This I pray
That you will hold me dear
Though I’m far away
I’ll whisper your name into the sky
And I will wake up happy
I wonder why I feel so high
Though I am not above the sorrow
Heavy hearted
Till you call my name
And it sounds like church bells
Or the whistle of a train
On a summer evening
I’ll run to meet you
Barefoot barely breathing
(repeat chorus)
It’s not too near for me
Like a flower I need the rain
Though it’s not clear to me
Every season has its change
And I will see you
When the sun comes out again
(repeat chorus)
Fashion Tips: Express Yourself With Colors
By Rick Valens
Feeling troubled over what color to wear? What color makes you look good? Well, fashion is all about yourself. What you choose to wear every morning tells a lot about you and how you felt that day. Even your little handbag carries a little story.Mixing and matching is a personal choice, you create your very own style!Well, let’s get to understand and have fun with colors
White
A popular color in Fashion. Light and neutral, it goes well with any color.
Considered a summer color, a good choice for tops. Always have some in your wardrobe. It readily matches bottoms of any color; a pair of blue denim jeans, Khakis pants, a gray skirt, a bright colorful beach bermudas? You name it!
Associated with cleanliness and purity, innocence and gentleness…, it gives you a feeling of freedom and uncluttered openness. Women just always look that lovely in their snowy white wedding gown, don’t they?
Tips: add a little touch of white to brighten or lighten up your mood Eg. a white tank top with blue denim jean, white cotton jacket over a hot pink velour smocked baby doll dress or a simply all white for a simple breezy look
Black
A popular color in Fashion, always stylish and never out of trend
A good choice for bottoms. Directly opposite of white, it readily matches tops of any colors. Nonetheless, it is also a popular choice for tops, making the wearer appearing slimmer. A great complementary color for accessories like a pink sparkling evening bag, a diamond necklace…
A mysterious color, it gives you a feeling of perspective and depth. Symbolizing elegance and refinement, it is always regarded as a prestigious color.
Tips: pair up black with other dark colors for an attractive mature look Eg. a brown wool button front cardigan with black pinstripe bootcut pants, gray tweed cropped blazer with black stretch pintuck pencil skirt
Red
An expressive color extensively use in Fashion.
Most visible and lively of all colors, it creates attraction and excitement. The wearer naturally portraits an image of excitable, energetic, enthusiasm and confidence. Nonetheless, it also suggests an erotic feeling, a lady in red?
A physically inspiring color often associated with vitality and ambition, love & passion.
Tips: pair up red with colors within the red family itself for various moods Eg. a red retro style tee with maroon pleated skirt, hot pink cotton v-neck tank with red fleece collegiate mini skirt
Yellow
A color commonly use in Casual Fashion.
Similar to red, it creates attraction and excitement. However it suggests a more fun and sunshine mood. The wearer tends to bring about amusing cheeriness to the group. Usually liked by those who embrace changes.
The color of sunshine, often associated with joy, liveliness and optimism.
Tips: pair up yellow with dark or lucid cool colors for a striking youthful look Eg. a yellow ruched halter top with black wool full skirt, yellow roll edge t-shirt with turquoise polka dot tiered mini skirt
Blue
A popular color liked by most
Emotionally opposite of red & yellow, it brings about a very soothing & relaxing feel, pleasant to the eyes. Naturally refreshing in mood, it’s a good choice for daytime wear.
The color of summer skies and the sea, often associated with calmness, affection, idealism and inspiration.
Tips: match blue with white for a refreshing and sporty look Eg. a bright blue cotton v-neck hoodie with white stretch cotton studded pants, white terry track jacket with pale blue faded jean
Pink
A feminine color for girls
Similar to blue, it’s soothing and pleasant to the eyes. Naturally sweet in mood, it has a lasting girly appeal.
Girls in pink tend to portrait a very sweet & pleasant image, always attractive to the guys.
The color of cotton candy, often associated with warm, everlasting affection & tender love
Tips: add a little pink to bring out the feminine touch Eg matching your black satin strapless sash dress with a pink crocodile clutch, pink collar tee with black stretched cotton cropped pant
Well, there are simply too many colors if I were to go on. I believe you should now have a feel of how matching of colors can be of so much fun? In simple, just play by the color rules:
1. Stick to one color (all white, blue, red…)
2. Hot goes with cool (match yellow with green or blue not with red, it might be too hot!)
3. Use neutral colors to draw the looks together (white, gray, beige and black are good neutral colors)
4. Play around with color of the same family (pink with maroon, sky blue with navy blue…)
Remember, you create your very own style. Have fun!
Signs and Characteristics of an Unhealthy Relationship
· He/She is jealous of your close friends, family members and all other men/women.
· Moody, unpredictable. Moods are extreme or change quickly.
· Selfish. Cares more about his/her needs and wants than yours. (Only concerned with “I”, instead of “we”).
· After the initial first or second date, doesn’t want to take you out again, just wants to stay in and watch movies/ have sex.
· Pushes intimacy before you are ready or is sexually aggressive.
· He/she starts planning your future right away.
· He/she hates his/her mother or father and treats him/her badly.
· He/she always wants your undivided attention.
· He/she must always be in charge.
· He/she always has to win.
· He/she always asks where you went and whom you saw.
· He/she can’t take criticism and always justifies his/her actions.
· Only calls you when he/she is drunk (a booty call) or doesn’t ask you out ahead of time.
· Uses you for sex, but doesn’t take you out on dates.
· Never has money, expects you to pay for everything.
· Has a bad or violent temper (especially when he/she doesn’t get his or her way).
· Isolates you from friends and family.
· Brings you down by criticizing you or putting you down (verbal abuse).
· Blames you for his/her problems or things that aren’t your fault. Blames you for everything that goes wrong in his/her life.
· Too needy or dependent upon you.
· Too demanding or unrealistic expectations. Expects you to be his/her “Slave, Maid or Mother/Father-figure”. May even expect so much of you that you are unable to take good care of yourself.
· Is Manipulative/controlling. Tries to influence you to do things you don’t feel comfortable doing like missing work or breaking the law.
· He/she often says you don’t know what you are talking about.
· He/she makes you feel like you are not good enough.
· He/She withdraws his/her love or approval as punishment.
· Doesn’t care about your feelings or makes you feel bad for having feelings.
· Is secretive about his/her past (may be an ex-convict, pedophile, con-artist or sex-offender).
· Has had multiple failed relationships.
· Cannot keep a job.
· Flirts with other men/woman when you are with her/him.
· Cheats on you or insists upon having or hiding relationships with other men/women from you.
· Lets you know up front that he/or she is not interested in marrying you, but wants a sexual relationship anyway.
· Brings out the worst in you.
· Not trust worthy. Takes/steals from you/ uses you. Takes more than he/she gives back.
· Asks you for money, credit cards, loans or other financial assistance too early on in the relationship.
· Pushes you, holds you down or hits you (physically abusive).
· Influences you to compromise core goals, morals or values.
· Won’t talk to you about the relationship or whatever you may want to discuss, always avoids serious conversations.
· Judge-mental of your life and struggles, although has his/her own share of problems.
· Emotionally distant or goes to someone else to get emotional support. Avoids closeness instead of connecting (intimacy).
· Doesn’t follow through with promises. Breaks them all of the time.
· Always angry for something you did or didn’t do.
· You find yourself apologizing to others for them or making excuses for them.
· You give them chance after chance.
· You end up paying for their sins or forgetfulness.
· You resent them or nag them.
· He/she is addicted to sex, drugs, alcohol, gambling, etc.
· Is unable to admit they have weaknesses. They believe they are perfect instead of admitting their faults.
· Is defensive instead of open to feedback.
· Is self-righteous vs. humble.
· Only apologize, but never change their behavior.
· Avoids working on their problems instead of dealing with them
· Demands trust instead of earning it.
· Blames others instead of taking responsibility for their lives.
· Lies instead of telling the truth.
· Is stagnant instead of growing.
· Stays in parent/child roles instead of treating you like and equal.
· Gossips instead of keeping secrets.
· Is unstable over time instead of consistent.
· Flatters you instead of confronting you.
· Condemns you instead of forgiving you.
· He threatens you with harm or destroys your property.
· You feel like you are always walking on “egg shells” when he/she is around.
Signs of a Healthy Relationship
· Communication is open and spontaneous (including listening).
· Rules/boundaries are clear and explicit, yet allows flexibility.
· Individuality, freedom and personal identity is enhanced.
· Each enjoys doing things for self, as well as for the other.
· Play, humor, and having fun together is commonplace.
· Each does not attempt to “fix” or control the other.
· Acceptance of self and other (for real selves).
· Assertiveness: feelings and needs are expressed.
· Humility: able to let go of the need to “be right”.
· Self confidence and security in own worth.
· Conflict is faced directly and resolved.
· Openness to constructive feedback.
· Each is trustful of the other.
· Balance of giving and receiving.
· Negotiations are fair and democratic.
· Tolerance: forgiveness of self and other.
· Mistakes are accepted and learned from.
· Willingness to take risks and be vulnerable.
· Other meaningful relationships and interests exist.
· Each can enjoy being alone and privacy is respected.
· Personal growth, change and exploration is encouraged.
· Continuity and consistency is present in the commitment.
· Balance of oneness (closeness) and separation from each other.
· Responsibility for own behaviors and happiness (not blaming the other person).
Relationships are the most challenging and the most rewarding aspects of this life. The more intimate the relationship the larger opportunity for growth we are given. Relationships are mirrors for us to learn more about ourselves. There are three different types of relationship mirrors.
One is the mirror of who you were. This mirror gives you the opportunity to see how far you have come, the chance to experience the karma that you have already cleared. So don’t get caught up in this relationship worried about why it is coming back at this time, thank it and let it go.
A second type of relationship is the one that is mirroring where you are now on your path. If an issue or person has an emotional "charge" to it, then you still have work to do. This mirror is the hardest to look at because it reflects the things you have not yet finished in your karma. These are the things that we are the most blind to.
The last type of relationship is the one that mirrors your potential. This allows you to have a glimpse at who you could be, if you wanted to. This person is usually someone that you idealize and put on a pedestal.
So look at your various relationships and see which group they fall into. By knowing this you will gain insight into yourself. Self understanding is the entire reason for these mirrors, not to ‘fix’ the other person, but to look at yourself.
Now there are two additional overarching categories of relationships that people always want to know about. The questions go something like this: "Is there a perfect mate out there for me?" or "Will I meet my Soul Mate?" These are
interesting questions.
The entire reason for most relationships are so that you can work on your spiritual self and your karma! So with that said, the more you clear up issues for yourself, the more you ARE the ‘right’ person, the more you will attract the person you are looking for.
Soul Mates and Twin Flames are not the same thing. Soul Mates are other souls that have agreed to connect with you on this planet for a purpose. In some cases it is to clear up karma, in other cases it is to finish unfinished business, and for some it is to accomplish a particular goal together. These relationships may be
a joy to be in or these relationships may be a pain in your life. Either way they are here for a reason.
When Soul Mates first meet they sometimes feel as if they already know each other. They may feel very familiar to each other. Soul Mates can have a beautiful relationship together, but it will take work. Soul Mate relationships may last a lifetime and others may only be for a particular purpose and be temporary. You can have more than one Soul Mate in a lifetime.
Twin Flames are very different and very rare. Twin Flames are two people in two separate bodies that share the same Soul. Twin Flames meet each other in their first incarnation so that they remember the soul frequency of the other being. They are then usually reunited on their last time to this planet. If Twin Flames meet before they are ready they can be the total opposite and not at all compatible. When Twin Flames meet and are ready for each other, it is the most enjoyable experience possible on Earth.
At this point, Twin Flames are almost identical. They truly compliment each other and it is a hardship for them to be apart. As an outside observer it is sometimes hard to distinguish the two people. They also have a very strong bond and often have telepathy with each other. Their lives even before meeting each
other have many parallels. Again, meeting your Twin Flame is very rare on this planet.
So, all relationships serve a purpose and should be honored and appreciated for what they have to offer you in your personal spiritual growth. Thank the person and the experiences for all that you have had the opportunity to learn and clear. Know that ALL relationships are sacred, because they bring us closer to the Light of All That Is. Amen and Be Blessed!
"We’ve dreamed about this since we were little girls. And now our dream’s coming true ( Naima).
It took less than two years for the Honeyz to sashay slinkily into the pop consciousness and become the Crown Princesses of R&B/Pop in the UK. Their debut single ‘Finally Found’, released in August 1998, introduced the angel-voiced trio to the British public and promptly went on to sell more than half a million copies. The follow-up, ‘End Of The Line’, notched up similarly impressive figures. Their album ‘Wonder No. 8′ went gold in the UK with sales of well over 200,000 copies. Modesty prevails though. "We’re still only on the first step of the ladder," says Celena, "but we’re determined to keep on climbing."
This is a song about finding somebody you’ve been looking for so long, the one that you’ve been dreaming of, It’s something which started as a PLATONIC LOVE which slowly blossomed into a ROMANTIC LOVE…This is for my friend whom I just talked to this afternoon.
FINALLY FOUND
By : Honeyz
Ooh ooh ooh
I can’t believe you’re here with me
And now it seems my world’s complete
And I never want this moment to end
I close my eyes and still I see
My dreams become reality
And now I know how it feels to be in love
I prayed so many nights that you would come my way
An angel from above to light my darkest day
I think it’s time for you to heed these lines
‘Cos there’s something I want to say
I finally found what I’ve been looking for
And now you know I’m going to love you more
Hold me tight ‘coz it’s always been you
(It’s always been you)
To think that you were always there (always there)
To be my friend and wipe away my tears
Now it’s clear that it’s always been you
Sometimes you don’t expect that friends
Can become lovers in the end
Only God knows what the future will bring
So hold me close and don’t let go
‘Cos this is love boy, don’t you know?
And we’re gonna be together for eternity
I prayed so many nights that you would come my way
An angel from above to light my darkest day
A love so strong it can’t be wrong
It’s with you that I belong
I finally found what I’ve been looking for (finally found)
And now you know I’m going to love you more
Hold me tight ‘coz it’s always been you
(It’s always been you)
To think that you were always there ( you were always there)
To be my friend and wipe away my tears
Now it’s clear that it’s always been you (you)
(This time) this time
I’m gonna make sure it turns out right
I wanna be your everything and by your side
For the rest of my life
(This love)
This love feels the way that love should be
Look in my eyes and realize there’s no disguise
‘Coz I’m in love with you
I finally found what I’ve been looking for
And now you know I’m going to love you more
Hold me tight ‘coz it’s always been you
To think that you were always there (you were always there)
To be my friend and wipe away my tears
(Wipe away my tears)
Now it’s clear that it’s always been you
(It’s always been you)
I finally found what I’ve been looking for (I finally found)
And now you know I’m going to love you more
Hold (oh) me tight ‘coz it’s always been you
(It’s always been you)
To think that you were always there (don’t you know?)
To be my friend and wipe away my tears (oh baby)
Now it’s clear that it’s always been you
(Always been you, yeah yeah)
I finally found what I’ve been looking for (I finally found it)
And now you know I’m going to love you more
(Yeah, I finally found it)
Hold me tight ‘cos it’s always been you
(It’s always been you oh)
To think that you were always there (what I been looking for)
To be my friend and wipe away my tears
(What I been looking for)
Now it’s clear that it’s always been you
(Always always)
WHAT YOU NEED
by : HOKU
If you belong to me
Nothing else would matter
I’d give you the moon and the stars
On a silver platter
Kiss you the way you should be kissed
And show you the kind of love that you missed
So hear me
Sweet baby
My heart won’t lie
Chorus:
What you need is what you get
If you come to me
I’ll give you love you won’t regret
I’ll set you free
If you believe like I believe
Boy, you know it’s true
Everythng you need, I’ll give to you
You’ve been alone too long
Baby, let me help you
Show you where your heart belongs
You know I’d love to
Give you one thousand reasons to stay
Be the light in my window
If you lose your way
So don’t fear
Baby, I’m right here
I’ll never leave
Chorus:
What you need is what you get
If you come to me
I’ll give you love you won’t regret
I’ll set you free
If you believe like I believe
Boy, you know it’s true
Everything you need, I’ll give to you
This is a promise you can keep
Just bring your broken heart to me
Baby, you know I’ll always be
The one you’ve waited for
The girl you’ve dreamed of
Just let me in and you’ll see
With her youngest child, two-year-old Sarah, riding on her hip and a huge German shepherd trailing on her heels, Amy Grant greets visitors at her
Tennessee
farm with a big smile and lots of southern hospitality. Moving inside the lovely white two-story house, she helps four-year-old Millie with a coloring book project before she begins mixing her favorite fruit juices to create the perfect blend for her guests. Watching Amy in action with her family, it’s obvious this is more than a page from Better Homes & Gardens. It’s a house of love. And suddenly the title of her new Myrrh CD seems less like a song title and more like the perfect description of her life.
That’s what is Love is For
By : Amy Grant
Sometimes, we make it harder than it is
We’ll take a perfect night
And fill it up with words we don’t mean
Dark sides best unseen
And we wonder why we’re feeling this way
Sometimes, I wonder if we really feel the same
Why we can be unkind
Questioning the strongest of hearts
That’s when we must start
Believing in the one thing
That has gotten us this far
(Chorus 1:)
That’s what love is for
To help us through it
That’s what love is for
Nothing else can do it
Melt our defenses
Bring us back to our senses
Give us strength to try once more
Baby, that’s what love is for
Sometimes, I see you, and you don’t know I am there
And I’m washed away
By emotions I hold deep down inside
Getting stronger with time
It’s living through the fire
And holding on we find
(Repeat chorus 1)
Believing in the one thing
That has gotten us this far
(Chorus 2:)
That’s what love is for
To help us through it
That’s what love is for
Nothing else can do it
Round off the edges
Talk us down from the ledges
Give us strength to try once more
Baby, that’s what love is for
That’s what love is for
That’s what love is for
Melt our defenses
Bring us back to our senses
Give us strength to try once more
Baby, that’s what love is for
That’s what love is for
(That’s what love is for)
That’s what love is for
(Ooh, nothing else can do it)
Baby, Baby
By : Amy Grant
Baby, baby
I’m taken with the notion
To love you with the sweetest of devotion.
Baby, baby
My tender love will flow from
The bluest sky to the deepest ocean.
Stop for a minute
Baby, I’m so glad you’re mine, yeah
You’re mine.
Baby, baby
The stars are shining for you
And just like me I’m sure that they adore you.
Baby, baby
Go walking through the forest
The birds above a’ singing you a chorus.
Stop for a minute
Baby, they’re so glad you’re mine, oh yeah
And ever since the day you put my heart in motion
Baby I realize that there’s just no getting over you.
Baby, baby
In any kind of weather
I’m here for you always and forever.
Baby, baby
No muscle man could sever
My love for you is true and it will never
Stop for a minute
Baby, I’m so glad you’re mine
And ever since the day you put my heart in motion
Baby I realize that there’s just no getting over you.
And ever since the day you put my heart in motion
Baby I realize that there’s just no getting over you.
Over you.
Baby, baby
Always and forever
Baby I’m so glad that
Here for you baby
So glad you’re mine
Baby I’m so glad that
When I think about you it makes me smile
Baby, baby be mine
Baby I’m so glad that
Don’t stop giving love
Don’t stop, no
Baby I’m so glad that you’re mine
Baby I’m so glad
Baby I’m so glad that
When I think about you it makes me smile.
How many times do I daydream
About making love to you
Take you to a special place
Where it’s only me and you
I put away all your troubles
On the other side of the world
And wrap my arms around your heart
And tell you you’re my girl
(So let’s go steal away in the night)
And I’ll go far away from here
(Tell you that’s where our love is right)
Can I take you to my world?
Chorus
Whenever you’re sad
Whenever you’re crying
I’ll be the one who wipes away your tears
Whenever you’re cold
Whenever you need me
I’ll be the one who runs to you
Giving my love
Well you know how much I love you
So you better not let me down
I’m not asking for too much, baby
Just stick around
A quiet day in the country
Or a rainy night in my room
We’ll hide away under the sheets
If the morning comes too soon
An afternoon in your eyes
Or a lifetime in your heart
Forever just ain’t long enough
But it needs to take a start
(Falling deeper in love with you)
Will you be there to catch me girl?
(I hope your falling deep with me
too)
Can I keep you in my world?
Chorus
Forever, forever
Ooh? would you come on baby
(let’s go steal away in the night)
And I’ll go far away from here
(Tell you that’s where our love is right)
Ooh..
Cause, whenever you’re sad
Whenever you’re crying
I’ll be the one who wipes away your tears
Whenever you call me
Whenever you need me
I’m gonna be right there and give you my love
Yeah, and you know how much I love you
So you better not let me down
I’m not asking for too much, baby
Just stick around
Forever, forever
It’s not difficult to make a woman happy. A man only needs to be:
01. a friend
02. a companion
03. a lover
04. a brother
05. a father
06. a master
07. a chef
08. an electrician
09. a carpenter
10. a plumber
11. a mechanic
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organizer
22. a good father
23. very clean
24. sympathetic
25. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive
28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate
44. compassionate WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:
45. give her compliments regularly
46. love SHOPPING
47. be honest
48. be rich
49. not stress her out
50. not look at other girls
AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:
51. give her lots of attention but expect little yourself
52. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
53. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes
IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:
54. Never to forget:
* birthdays
* anniversaries
* arrangements she makes
55. you should always kiss her gently and passionately
